As widows, we should be proud of ourselves. We have got through some of the worst possible experiences.
Be proud of what you have achieved today.
Today may be a bad day, and if it is, be proud that you are still here. You have survived another day.
Today may be a okay day. Be proud that you are clean and are drinking tea (other beverages are available).
Today may be a good day. Be proud of looking after yourself, looking after other people, going to work, shopping, acting, singing, creating something, changing your life, changing the world.
Whatever you have done, however small, however huge, you did it. Be proud. I'm proud of you.
I was widowed at 50 when Tim, who I expected would be my happy-ever-after following a marriage break-up, died suddenly from heart failure linked to his type 2 diabetes. Though we'd known each other since our early 20s, we'd been married less than ten years.