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You are a widow

5/7/2022

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You are a widow* and are welcome here if you have lost your partner.
Young or old or somewhere in between – you are a widow.
Committed to each other for a few months, or the whole of your life – you are a widow.
Living together or living apart – you are a widow.
Going through tough times when they died – you are a widow.
Queer or straight – you are a widow.
Cis, trans, non-binary, agender, gender-expansive, gender-fluid, intersex – you are a widow.
Childless, child-free, have children or have lost children – you are a widow.
In a traditional or a non-traditional relationship - you are a widow.

Got another partner or are dating, or haven't got another partner, don't want another partner or don't want a traditional relationship – you are a widow.
Days in or decades in – you are a widow.

 
*I use 'widow' as a non-gendered term
5 Comments
Allison link
17/11/2022 14:12:45

It’s been 4 long weeks and life feels like it should stand still. My family are amazing, but I miss him

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Pattie
8/6/2023 13:34:45

2mos seems like an eternity.
Missing him every day.
‘Till Death Do Us Part’ came way too early!!!
I wanted ‘OUR’ 4ever!!!
Not getting much of this death paperwork done.

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Deborah
5/7/2023 22:58:27

I know when we said our, "I do's in sickness and in health" I never thought for one second that I would loose him 9yrs later to cancer!! How can I be a widow at 38yrs and our little boys have lost their daddy!! Its the shitest club no one wants to be part of but we find ourselves in!! I try and think positive everyday but then the thoughts creep in, why didn't we get our forever and retire as elderly couple happy and content!? Maybe one day my brain will just calm down its constant panic attack of worrying . Will I be enough to be both mum and dad now for our sons!? Widowhood is fu**ing cruel 😢 💔 xxx

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Nancy
18/3/2024 14:39:02

My Husband passed away march 4, 2024. We were raising our 6 year old granddaughter together. In 2023 he had a series of surgeries, then in September he was diagnosed with 3c lung cancer.
Now it's just me and the granddaughter and i find it hard to breathe. I will continue to trust in the Lord.

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Moira
3/5/2024 11:20:55

Husband of fifty years died 22 Feb 2024. In the months before his death from pulmonary fibrosis, would lie in his bed and tell me all the paperwork and details I’d need, would be in a black expanding file and a brown envelope. Only one problem, everything was moved to get in his hospital bed and we had many brown envelopes. PS that black expanding file hadn’t been updated in years. Feel I’m drowning in paperwork and solicitor bill is going to be epic.

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    I was widowed at 50 when Tim, who I expected would be my happy-ever-after following a marriage break-up, died suddenly from heart failure linked to his type 2 diabetes. Though we'd known each other since our early 20s, we'd been married less than ten years. ​

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